by asking yourself some specific questions.
Keep a record of your answers in a notebook
Here are 10 questions to begin your journey
and remember, YOU will always be a WORK
If you could do anything you want to tomorrow,
what would it be?
The answer should not be something that
is an escape from what you ordinarily
would be doing, but in more positive terms
of a true dream.
What are your core values?
Core values became yours in childhood
and you would not be you if you did not
respect those. Make a list and then pare
it down to the 5 that speak to you most
What are your special talents?
What do you do better than most people
What were your dreams as a child?
If you have trouble remembering, go back
and look at early photographs. Notice
details to jog your memory.
What is the thing you are most proud of
accomplishing in your life so far?
If you are tempted to answer getting
into college or passing the
bar, ask yourself something more
personal and unique. For example, ask
yourself if getting into college
would have been the choice you made if
it hadn't been expected of you. Would
you have preferred to learn a trade had
it been an acceptable choice? What moments
of triumph did you have as a child?
What will you regret not doing in your
life if you continue as you are now?
What do you want people to say about you
after you are no longer living? What is
9) What do you want to do when
Outside of parents who influenced your
life more than anyone else; who had an
impact on your life and what was it about
that person that meant something to you?
The next step is to put self knowledge
into action. That means you begin planning
your life based on what you know about
yourself. You notice if WHAT you do, act,
behave, work, and make choices are in
sync with WHO you are. It is complex because
we are all influenced by the outside world
to make the choices we do.
In the immortal words of Joseph Campbell,
"Follow your bliss."
When you know yourself and act in accordance,
the path becomes clear.
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