I must confess, I laughed when I saw that
Maria Shriver has come out with a book
called, Ten Things I Wish I Had
Known Before Going Into The Real World.
The real world? Come on, she grew up a
Kennedy and married the biggest action
movie star of all time! That aside, it
got me to thinking: What are ten things
I wish I would have known before going
out into the real world? So, here they
isnt fair. You know, your mother
always told you this but as kids we never
believe it. We think that somehow mom
was two tacos short of a combo plate and
that eventually we will go into the real
world and show her how those who work
hard and do right always do come out on
top. Then after about five years we become
disenchanted and start to smell the coffee.
Life isnt fair! Why didnt
anybody tell me that? I guess they did,
didnt they? Unfortunately, sometimes
the bad guys wins. Sometimes people die
early. We shouldnt take this lightly,
but we must be realists. While we accept
what comes our way, we still strive to
work hard, dream big, and do right.
play favorites. It is true that it isnt
what you know but who you know that counts.
This is because people play favorites.
Sometimes it doesnt matter that
you are the best person or have the lowest
bid. People will regularly cut deals with
people they like or who can scratch their
back in return. I guess the lesson to
learn is that while we strive to achieve
much and have excellent skills, we should
also develop a strong network of healthy
will let you down. Being a person who
does what he says can be a blessing and
a curse. It is a blessing because I am
able to look at myself in the mirror each
day. It is a curse because if you are
like that, you will most likely expect
that from others and yet they will regularly
let you down. People can be bad at keeping
their word or doing what is right. I could
have relieved a lot of emotional stress
if I would have known this one before
getting out into the real world.
everybody wants to grow personally. I
just assumed that everybody loved to learn
and to grow. I thought everybody wanted
to get better at what they did. The reality
is, however, that most people do not.
That is why there is something that we
call average. Most people
want to stay where they are. That is why
they do. Those who strive to go forward
will always be cutting against the grain
and will often be resented, even if quietly,
stock market goes down sometimes. Some
of you older folks knew this. But us young
whippersnappers, we have been riding it
high on the hog for a while. This is good
in a sense, but unless you have some common
sense of how financial markets work, you
can get quite a shock from time to time.
You see, before you get into the real
world, everything gets handed to you and
you really dont have to work for
much. Then you do and you think that every
investment will turn out grand
older you get, the harder it is to lose
weight. I was always a little pudgy.
Nothing big, just not like the cover guys
of Mens Health Magazine (You know,
the ones that say Six-pack abs in
20 minutes a day. I think that means
they only eat twenty minutes a day, and
it is usually stewed vegetables! But I
). If I would have known
better, I would have worked harder when
I was younger to keep the weight off so
I wouldnt have to work that much
is work. A good marriage is more work.
When you are young you think, Ill
find the girl of my dreams and well
live happily ever after. Well, hello!
You forget that your spouse is human and
you are too, most of the time! To live
under the same roof with someone and to
work out likes and dislikes, personalities,
and schedules, not to mention life goals
and the like is HARD WORK! Not drudgery,
just work. Yes, there will be plenty of
bliss and joy, but marriage will make
you work for it!
takes longer to get out of debt than to
get into it. I have never really had much
debt. I did take out student loans to
pay for school and wow, do they take a
long time to get out of. Fortunately I
have them paid off but for a while there,
it was one of the big checks we wrote
every month. Many people think credit
cards are great because they can have
what they want when they want it. Too
bad they dont realize that twenty
minutes of shopping ecstasy will result
in months or years of payments.
doesnt work to try to please others.
I have always wanted people to like me.
Many times, I wanted them to like me too
much. That isnt good. This doesnt
work because I realized that most of the
time, people liking or disliking you has
nothing to do whatsoever with rational
thought. Some people will dislike you,
no matter how well you have done, and
others will love you, warts and all. So
I do my best and let the chips fall where
they may now.
need to tend to your spiritual, emotional,
and physical health or you will crash
hard. If you dont take time for
yourself, both inwardly and outwardly,
your body will catch up with you. You
can take time for yourself by choice or
not. It is much more fun by choice! Life
is hard and it can and will weigh you
down. We need to tend the fires of spirit
and mind while keeping our physical bodies
tuned for success as well. If not, our
bodies break down.
In spite of the above, life is very much
worth it! Some of the above may seem like
bummers. They arent the positive
things we like to focus on, but they are
true. Being positive doesnt mean
sticking your head in the ground in order
to avoid the negative of life. What it
means is that we are realists who understand
the negative aspects of life and choose
to be optimists instead. We deal with
the negative and pursue the positive.
That is why I can say that life is worth
living no matter how expensive or painful
the lessons I have had to learn have been.
Life is good and I can make it better!
I had to learn some lessons AFTER I got
into the real world. So what? At least
I learned them and can live the rest of
my life to the fullest from now on! I
hope you can too!